Learn When To Let Go of Him or Her



by Belinda Kendall

I just had lunch with a man I have known for many years and he agreed to allow me share his story.  He was telling me about how he couldn’t understand why the girl he once dated is doing so much better than when they were.   I told him about the story about Jonah and how we used to laugh at his story instead of looking at the lesson in his story.

Jonah was running from God and what he told him to do. Jonah knew the reason for his struggles. This is the reason that when he was on the boat and everything started happening he said, “Its me, throw me over board”.

This lady you dated had a call on her life and she was running from it because it was too big for her to even imagine in her current situation. So she became distracted with dating you when she knew full well God had called her to do other things. This is why your relationship was full of drama and confusion. So once she left you and fulfilled what God had called her to do, things changed for her.

There are people in other people’s lives via relationships or friendships, and nothing seems to happen for them. It’s like all doors have been shut. But it has more to do with you or them and the call they have on their life.

When there is a call on your life, you will not be able to have peace until you do what has God told you to do. Not until you throw yourself overboard will you find peace.

This sadden him because he really did like the girl. So I told him its not like I am saying that you will never get back together, but she had an appointment she had to keep. So don’t beat yourself up that it was something you did. It was more of something she had to do. You see this a lot in relationships.

Learn to throw some people overboard, and even yourself, so you can make your appointment and find peace.

Some people have been stuck for many years in the same place. You need to ask yourself who has been in your life the whole time and throw them overboard. You may be surprised at the changes that will take place.


Learn When To Be Silent



by Belinda Kendall

Some of you women don’t understand the games some non-Christians men play so let me help you

Men don’t cheat when you are not speaking after a fight, because he knows he’s got to be on point if you call or come by to straigthen things out. It’s when everything is good because he knows you are not searching for anything.

When you want a man to compliment you you allow them to control you. You see a man is a hunter and he knows your desire to hear him to say how good you look. So if anoher man say something to you it means nothing because he didnt say it. So you keep jumping through hoops to get his attention.

Silence is the best form of communication when you’re upset. Men want you to talk so that they can listen to the sound of your voice.So he will admit to something, or try an start an agrument with you. He needs to hear whats on your mind or hear the pitch in your voice to see if you’re going to kill him.

When a man start an argument out of nowhere, there is a reason. He will keep going until you end up cursing him out. In his mind you have cursed him out for what he has done and what you don’t know about. They also use this to get out of the house.

Married men will confess their love to you and swear he would die if you left. But if you call his wife he will kill you as dead as you will ever die because you’re just his whore who forgot her place.

When arguing with a man you can bring up something that happen last week, and he will say you are bringing up the past. But he will nail you to the cross with something you did last year. He wants to confuse and distract you so you will forget.

When you make love to a man after an arguament you can’t bring up that agrument anymore, because in his mind it’s settled.

Be quiet and stop being so senstive when he has an argument with you and blames you for stuff you didnt do or say. Shut your mouth he’s telling you what he has done.

Please know all men are not like this, but think like a child and you can figure most of them out.


Keep the Sparks alive in your Relationship


by Jewel Tyler

I wonder how many of our readers are married? If you are do you find your relationship has become complacent? Mundane? Boring?  You just go through the daily motions, go to work, come home, cook, eat dinner, small talk, maybe watch TV together, go to bed, sleep and do it all over again.

What happened to the romance, the teasing, the tickles, the sexy garments you were so tickled to purchase and sport in the bedroom when he would come over.

I believe couples forget the same thing they did to hook each other are the very same things need to be done to keep each other interested and the love between you two flourishing! Don’t get so caught up in work, the kids, TV, friends, etc. that you forget to love and care and romance one another.

Before you know it there WILL be SOMEONE out there who will do the romancing, the joking, entertain conversation you don’t have time for; will wear the SEXY outfit or LINGERIE he wants to see on you again. Don’t worry about the baby fat, he is still with you which means he loves ALL OF YOU!! I have heard too many men say “Women worry about the wrong things – we men are not concerned if your belly is a lil fat” but we tear ourselves apart about that. It’s mainly your dangone girlfriends making you feel bad about what you see in the mirror and what he MIGHT FIND JUST SEXY.

I remember I went out and purchased a very sexy piece of lingerie put it on and actually had a good time with my husband and later found out he was more turned on with my ole raggedy big momma dress I used to wear around the house when i was cooking and cleaning.  Who knew even though it was different with the expensive lingerie, he was more turned on in seeing me in that old raggedy dress (smile).

Know your mate, and keep your relationship fresh and new; also, pull out some of the good ole day things you used to do that turned him out!  Don’t be afraid to experiment – I had a young lady share the following with me:

My husband and I had just purchased our home – so money was very tight, but I wanted to do something special to bring the romance back into our relationship.  We had both had been so stressed out about our finances and the big move.  So, I was sitting and watching television and repeatedly a commercial was shown about the islands and taking a vacation.  As I sat there day dreaming about laying on a beach listening to the ocean I had an epiphany.  So I went to work, I pulled out an old nature CD I had with the sound of the ocean and seagulls, I pulled out some blankets that we would take to the beach that had been packed away. I put on my bathing suit with my wrapped skirt, cut up some fruit, made some mixed drinks and rearranged my living room to look like we were at the beach.  I pulled plants in the room and made it atmosphere complete.  When he arrived home, I told him honey since we cannot take a vacation on the beach I decided to bring the beach atmosphere to our home.  We had the most intimate romantic evening, we both allowed our imagination to take us away!

I personally thought that was rather creative!  I still love the idea of running a bubble bath and asking the significant other to join in.

There is that chance If you keep up the same ole mundane routine; don’t be angry or upset when you find out he is tipping with someone else!

Your Not Alone



by Belinda Kendall

In so many cases in our walk with God, we sometimes feel alone and want to give up. You see, when you give your life to God, you must know you will go to the top of the devil’s hit list.
You are not alone Hebrew 12:1 says, “Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses.”

If you lose everything you have, Job will be in the stands cheering you on and to remind you that God will restore.

If you find yourself pregnant out of wedlock and people start mocking you, Jesus’ mother Mary will be in the stands cheering you on and reminding you how she was mocked when she was pregnant with Jesus and not married.

If you find yourself in jail or prison, Paul will be there to remind you that the same people that are judging you also follow the teaching of Jesus Christ. He wrote while in prison himself.

If you find yourself being rejected and mocked by your siblings, Joseph will be there to cheer you on and remind you that he knows how you feel, and God has a bigger plan for you.

You will find yourself not being able to make ends meet, Apostle Peter will be in the stands to cheer you on because he paid his taxes with money he found in a fish mouth, so he will encourage you to look for God to do something new.

When all kinds of hell breaks loose in your life for no real reason, Jonah will be there cheering you on and reminding you that God is just trying to get your attention.He was thrown in the belly of a whale running from what God told you to do.

When people remind you of your past,the woman at the well will be there to cheer you on and tell you that Jesus thought enough of her to take to time to speak to her and changed her life.

When sickness is in your body and it seems that God has forgotten you, the woman with the issue of blood will be there to cheer you on and remind you that you are not waiting on God, He is waiting on you.

Look at your walk with God like you look at Monday night football. NFL players will tell you that there is always somebody they look to in the crowd for encouragement. We need to look to the Great Crowd of Witness that surround us. AMEN? AMEN!