Because I am a Man!

by Belinda Kendall

The Bible teaches us that the man is the head. The churches reinforces that the man is the leader.

The government and the world recognize the man as the head of the household. In most cases, companies will pay the man more money for the same job as woman do, because he is a man and considered head of household.

Some men use that title to let you know they can do and say anything they want, because they are a man.

The rules are much harder on women in the church than the man. Some women have been reminded through verbal, emotional, and sadly, physical abuse that you can’t speak any kind of way to him, because he is a man.

So why is it that the world, churches and women have to honor your title, and you still don’t understand what it takes to be a man?

I have always said that some titles are given by default. This title, the leader or head, should not be used to control women. Too many women have been abused, mistreated, suffered from depression, and even died all because some men got your title by default.

Today I spoke to a lady that was being verbally abuse by her husband, and when she reached out to her father (who is a Pastor), for help he told her, “That’s your husband and you need to obey him, because he is the head of your household.” The brotherhood called, “Because I am a Man”, can be thicker than blood.

When I got home I looked at my son, Ben, and wondered how I can teach him that titles like, “The Leader, the head, and a man” is a title that comes with accountability and shouldn’t be given to him by default. These titles come with a lot of power, and can be very dangerous when in the wrong hands.

“Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.” – Abraham Lincoln

I would like to your feedback, but save it if you say, “They need Jesus and the Church”, keep it. Because SOME of the men in church are the ones sitting the bad examples. Sad but true the world seem to treat, and respect the women better than the churches in most cases.


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