by Belinda Kendall
I have always wondered how it would feel to mess with a married man.
How does it feel to lie down at night in an empty bed by yourself , while the man you love, sleeps in the bed with his wife every night.
How would it feel for people to come together, and celebrate their love during their anniversary and then wonder why your love is not celebrated by your friends?
How would it feel if you had a child by him, but he would only acknowledge the children by his wife in public? What will you tell your children when they ask about their father? How would it feel to abort your baby, while he celebrates the life of him and his wife’s children?
How would it feel to be a strong, smart, independent woman, but the words like, “I am working on it”, “I love you more”, “just be patient”, and “I don’t love her like you”, be enough to keep me pacified for years? How would it feel to watch all of your friends get married and start families while you wait for the fulfillment of promises from a man who lied to his own wife?
How would it feel to show up at an event where his wife is present and everybody that knows about you and him, treat you like the plague?
What if he died and everybody that is at the funeral only comfort his wife, and their children, and not acknowledge that you and your children have lost too?
How would it feel to have a man come over and pay a few bills, and treat you like an appointment that has to be penciled in sporadically, because it can change based on his wife desires?
How would it feel, should he end up leaving his wife, that he could do the same thing you all did to his first wife with somebody else? Or, wonder if will he go back to his wife, or if he’s still attracted to her because she is the one he asked to marry?
My Daddy used to say, “You can mess with a married man if you want to, but God have mercy on your soul, if she is a praying wife. It’s wicked to mess with a married man, because you will pay a high cost for your sins, and breaking the covenant they made in front God and man.”
How does it feel to know that you are the wicked one, and you and/or your children will pay the cost for your sins? Psalms 91:8 says, “Only with thine eyes shalt thou behold and see the reward of the wicked.” Which means now that his wife, her friends, and family members know about the relationship they have front row seats to watch you and your children’s demise.
I guess I’m not really wondering how it would feel to mess with a married man, but rather why someone even do it.