by Jewel Tyler
Sometimes as parents, if there are any in the group that are parenting an almost and or adult child it can be the most difficult thing to do. If your children are on their way to becoming a young adult heed this message (smile).
When they are little you can tell them to go to their room, and who and who not to socialize with. If they are sick you can take them to the doctor to get well. No questions asked.
But once they reach the age of 18 years old and above this is where the hard part steps in and the harsh reality of you are no longer in control of their life. You have to step back and watch the horrible mistakes they are about to, or are currently making. That is when they reach the age of “I am going to do it my way whether right or wrong,” they sometimes have no respect for your advice for them, not recognizing you love them and you have already been where they are going.
Life is like a circle it may be a different year and different time but life is still the same. And that fact of information they sometimes do not comprehend. You have been there and done that, learned and healed from your mistakes so you KNOW that you KNOW what they are about to embark upon.
If they are sick and refuse to go to the doctors, you cannot just take them because if they refuse treatment the doctors hands are tied.
I have watched my children and now grandchildren make the wrong choices and decisions and you know what it hurts to see them go through probably the same way we hurt our parents. So, you have to sit back, pray, continue to advise them and see them walk into walls of unnecessary pain and defeat.
So with all of that said I suggest you do your best to instill into your precious babies who have not reached 18+ the proper morals and values that they need, most of all teach them to RESPECT you; so that will continue as they grow and most importantly TEACH THEM ABOUT GOD don’t just take them to church and drop them off, sit down with them at home and have bible study with them; pray with them so they can learn how to trust and have a relationship with God. Because trust me when I say that is how they will live out the rest of their lives.
I have been blessed with some wonderful adult children, the road has not been easy, but I am so very proud of them all!
Peace & Blessings