For We Wrestle Not . . . .



by Belinda Kendall


The devil has been able to cause problems, sadness, and much pain in our life, because we tend to pray against the person that has caused the pain, instead of praying against the spirit that control them.

Ephesians 6:12 says, “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.”

We spend so much time praying that our spouse, children, boss, and love ones will change their ways. When you should pray against the sprit that controls them- the devil.

We spend time praying that the lack in our life will change with a financial breakthrough, or a new job. But you don’t realize that if you had a million dollars, you would lose it, because the problem is the spirit that causes the lack- the devil.

Some people really think that if they move away things will change, but baby you can move to Paris, and that spirit will follow you there, and you will still have the same problems.

Some of you are dealing with the same problems over and over again, because you are praying against the person, (flesh, and blood), instead of the spirit that Ephesians 6:12 speaks of.

It’s like praying that your mail man would stop delivering your mail in the manner he/she does, instead of the spirit that controls him- the US Postal Service.

Instead of focusing on the coward behind all of this, we focus on the person who is being controlled by a spirit, thus the reason our prayers don’t bring about change.


Men are created to Control



by Belinda Kendall


Men are created to control; thus the reason they usually take charge in most situations.

I posted a video some time back called, “The Secret of Body Language.” One of the examples they gave was how the person that stands back, and opens the door is the one in control. Many men of power know this, and will sometimes race to get the door before you walk in, because this is their way they of telling you that they are in control.

Opening the door for a man, or woman is an act of control, because in so many ways they are giving you permission to enter, control. But if someone reaches the door before you and you go in first, to regain control, they will pat you on the back as to say, “Good Boy.”

So this got me to thinking. What does this mean when you are with a man and he doesn’t hold the door for you, but walks in before you?

The next time a man opens the door for you, pat him on his back and watch his reaction. If he ask you why did you do that, as if he is offend you may have a man that is in control. But if he say, “Thank you and smile, you may have a problem.

Try it and see, and please let me know what happens….

Soldiers of God



by Belinda Kendall


The Soldiers of God should act more like the US Military.

The US Military allow their Soldiers to go through struggles to make sure they are prepared for war, and leadership. Just like God allowed David to run from Saul without helping him, because God was preparing him to become the King.

When we see a General with all of his metals, we know he paid a great cost, and his metals are a sign of what he went through to become a General. Now some of those metals represents, lost love ones, rejection, judged, mocked, failed marriages, bravery, sadness, and even death itself. But, notice when a Soldier or a Vet comes into his presence or even near him, they stop what they are doing and salute him, whether the General can see him, or not. All because of what he has been through and overcome.

Some of you are just like Jesus in many ways. Even where you were born there was something different about you. But notice Jesus didn’t become the Savior, until he was beaten, lied on, mocked, judged, rejected, and killed, and then came back from the dead. Nobody wanted to hear what Oprah had to say when she was being molested, she was just another case. It was not until she overcame what she went through did people wanted to hear what she had to say. And, they stand when she enters a room.

So why do we have older Christians, trying to convince the new Christians that you never been through struggles, as if, you heard the Word of God and accepted it right away. You know better than me that some of you were saved by fear of hell, received Christ, and still sinned, until you got it right. And, most of us God had to arrest us into his kingdom, kicking and screaming.

God never met for you to be ashamed, embarrassed, or bitter about your past, God allowed you to go through it; because He knew you would come out on the other side, and bring somebody else through it. You are just like the General that demands respect for overcoming your struggles, and people want to hear what you have to say.

Do you have the same Struggles?



by Belinda Kendall


I hear so many people talk about the mistake their parents made in life, and how bitter they are because of their childhood.

You know Jesus took our sins to the cross, so we didn’t have to bear them ourselves. Some of you remember your parents being addictive to drugs, drinking; begin whores, gamblers, abusive, and so many other things that you don’t have a problem with. Even some of you reading this, your children have seen you with this same behavior.

But isn’t interesting how you, or your children don’t struggle with those same issues. Could it be because you or your parents defeated that spirit, so you wouldn’t have to?

The only reason you don’t have a problem with drugs, or drinking is because you saw what your parents went through. You have been married to the same man/woman for years, because you know what a broken home feels like. Most of you would never dream putting your hands on your wife, because you remember the pain it caused your mother.

That same parent that you are so bitter about, and ashamed of is the only reason you don’t have those same issues. Little do you know that God allowed your parents and in some cases you to defeat that demon. Because He knew you or your children wouldn’t be able to handle it, it would have consumed you, and later destroyed you.

So the next time you think about what your parents took you though as a child you should tell them, “THANK YOU.” Because God knew you would not be strong enough to handle it, because, they saved your life, and broke a generational curse

Tease Me But I Don’t Want It That Easy



by Belinda Kendall

I got something to tell you, and you want to hear it.

This is how most relationships start out. For some odd reason we think that by giving a person sex shortly after we meets them, will keep them. We think that we are able to give the best sex he/she has ever had, not even taking into consideration that they can get that anywhere.

After you have done every sex move in the world, you will find out something you didn’t notice in the beginning- you really don’t like them. But by now soul ties have been created, and you can’t walk away so easily. It becomes a relationship where you are always arguing, both of you are bitter, and now you begin to cheat on each other.

This behavior can have you so crazy you will find yourself doing drive bys, calling from blocked numbers, and telling your friends how much you hate them, but can’t leave. You will find yourself posting half nude pictures, and making sexual comments on social media, because you never knew your self worth. No one ever asked you about your dreams, plan, and goals in life, because you were too busy having sex, and not making love.

So the next time someone tells you, “I got something to tell you, and you want to hear it.” Ask them. “Let’s talk about what you have to tell me, and why would you think I would be interested in hearing it? You may find out that they can’t even hold an intelligent conversation, and you have nothing in common.

“Hate to sound sleazy, but tease me, I don’t want it if it’s that easy”
― Tupac Shakur

The Key To Communicating With A Man



by Belinda Kendall


The key in communicating with a man is to leave all the emotions out.

If you had a son that was going through a lot in a relationships, job, or just life: would you start complaining when he comes over?” “Most mothers would not do that because she already knows that he is going through a lot, and he may have come to her house for some type of peace.

When you are in a new relationship and/or marriage, most men have some situations they are dealing with, if they don’t- they were just born. This could also be the reason men cheat, because the person they are cheating with don’t complain. But please know once she starts complaining, he will find someone else.

We seem to have a need to hear the words, “I love you, I am in a committed relationship with you, I want to marry you or let me tell you how much I care.” If that man is coming home every night, supporting you, or being there to help you with your needs, HE LOVES YOU.

We forget that before he met you he had his heart broken earlier, and he promised God and a few more people that he will never feel that emotion again, at any cost. Men don’t handle emotions very well, God didn’t create them that way. Your voice alone wakes up the emotional side of him, thus the reason when a man sees a woman crying he automatic try to figure out how to fix it. The fear that you will do the same thing keeps him from expressing his love. So he expresses his love with actions, and not words.

We all have those friends that every time they call and you see the caller ID, you take a deep breath and then answer or send the call to voice mail. You may say that he will have those conversations with his son/daughter or other family members when they are upset, so he can do the same for me? But the same reaction you see when they call is the same reaction he has when you call.

So stop talking so much, and just watch his actions. I was in an abusive marriage before, and every time he would abuse me, he would always say, “I love you.” Please know I wished so many times that he showed me the actions of love, and not the words.

He can show you better than I can tell you.

Praying for a Breakthrough



by Belinda Kendall


We all remember the story about the man of God that approached the widow and her son, and asked them for something to eat? We all know how the story ended; she gave her last, and was blessed.

How many times have you been praying for a breakthrough, and someone comes to you in need? Keep in mind you may have only had $10.00, and they needed $5.00, but you gave it to them anyway. Then all of a sudden what you have been praying for happens.

Now let’s think about the times you were in the same situations as above, but you were so consumed in your own needs you didn’t help.

I remember a story a Pastor told about a woman that got a letter from Jesus, telling her He was planning on visiting her. She left the house to prepare for His arrival. On the way to the store, a little boy that was looking for food, a homeless man needing a coat for his pregnant wife, and an old women asking for changes, all asked her for help.

She told them all, I don’t have time for you, and I got to get ready for Jesus who is paying me a visit today! After she reached home she prayed, “Jesus where are you, I thought you were going to visit me today?” Hours passed then the door bell ringed, and there was a note from Jesus. He said, “ I visited you today 3 times, as a little boy, a man, and an older woman looking for help, but you rejected me each time.

Hebrews 13:12 says, “Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it.”