Adult Parenting

me n kids

by Jewel Tyler

Sometimes as parents, if there are any in the group that are parenting an almost and or adult child it can be the most difficult thing to do. If your children are on their way to becoming a young adult heed this message (smile).

When they are little you can tell them to go to their room, and who and who not to socialize with. If they are sick you can take them to the doctor to get well. No questions asked.

But once they reach the age of 18 years old and above this is where the hard part steps in and the harsh reality of you are no longer in control of their life. You have to step back and watch the horrible mistakes they are about to, or are currently making. That is when they reach the age of “I am going to do it my way whether right or wrong,” they sometimes have no respect for your advice for them, not recognizing you love them and you have already been where they are going.

Life is like a circle it may be a different year and different time but life is still the same. And that fact of information they sometimes do not comprehend. You have been there and done that, learned and healed from your mistakes so you KNOW that you KNOW what they are about to embark upon.

If they are sick and refuse to go to the doctors, you cannot just take them because if they refuse treatment the doctors hands are tied.

I have watched my children and now grandchildren make the wrong choices and decisions and you know what it hurts to see them go through probably the same way we hurt our parents. So, you have to sit back, pray, continue to advise them and see them walk into walls of unnecessary pain and defeat.

So with all of that said I suggest you do your best to instill into your precious babies who have not reached 18+ the proper morals and values that they need, most of all teach them to RESPECT you; so that will continue as they grow and most importantly TEACH THEM ABOUT GOD don’t just take them to church and drop them off, sit down with them at home and have bible study with them; pray with them so they can learn how to trust and have a relationship with God. Because trust me when I say that is how they will live out the rest of their lives.

I have been blessed with some wonderful adult children, the road has not been easy, but I am so very proud of them all!

Peace & Blessings


How Does It Feel To Mess With A Married Man?



by Belinda Kendall


I have always wondered how it would feel to mess with a married man.

How does it feel to lie down at night in an empty bed by yourself , while the man you love, sleeps in the bed with his wife every night.

How would it feel for people to come together, and celebrate their love during their anniversary and then wonder why your love is not celebrated by your friends?

How would it feel if you had a child by him, but he would only acknowledge the children by his wife in public? What will you tell your children when they ask about their father? How would it feel to abort your baby, while he celebrates the life of him and his wife’s children?

How would it feel to be a strong, smart, independent woman, but the words like, “I am working on it”, “I love you more”, “just be patient”, and “I don’t love her like you”, be enough to keep me pacified for years? How would it feel to watch all of your friends get married and start families while you wait for the fulfillment of promises from a man who lied to his own wife?

How would it feel to show up at an event where his wife is present and everybody that knows about you and him, treat you like the plague?

What if he died and everybody that is at the funeral only comfort his wife, and their children, and not acknowledge that you and your children have lost too?

How would it feel to have a man come over and pay a few bills, and treat you like an appointment that has to be penciled in sporadically, because it can change based on his wife desires?

How would it feel, should he end up leaving his wife, that he could do the same thing you all did to his first wife with somebody else? Or, wonder if will he go back to his wife, or if he’s still attracted to her because she is the one he asked to marry?

My Daddy used to say, “You can mess with a married man if you want to, but God have mercy on your soul, if she is a praying wife. It’s wicked to mess with a married man, because you will pay a high cost for your sins, and breaking the covenant they made in front God and man.”

How does it feel to know that you are the wicked one, and you and/or your children will pay the cost for your sins? Psalms 91:8 says, “Only with thine eyes shalt thou behold and see the reward of the wicked.” Which means now that his wife, her friends, and family members know about the relationship they have front row seats to watch you and your children’s demise.

I guess I’m not really wondering how it would feel to mess with a married man, but rather why someone even do it.

If You Were Brought Up Right


By Belinda Kendall

Have you noticed that people that don’t have a job has the craziest ideas on things they want to buy?

When a parent make you earn things you want, they become better citizens. They are very careful with their money, they don’t waste, and they learn to save. And, they usually take this behavior into there adulthood. One of the things that make a parent proud is when they see how their children are mindful of their spending, and always having a saving. You prepared then for the future.

Notice the behavior of children that got everything given to them. They become horrible adults, bad marriage partner, bad students, co-workers, and just down right hard to deal with. Because, they always had things given to them, so should everybody else around them. Or, spend their money like it drops out of the sky, but no worries, because they believe that somebody with help them.

Well I believe our Father God is the same way, when it comes to us praying to win the lottery, and praying for a financial break though. Look at the things that happen when you pray for money. You usually end up getting a new job, promotion, or come up with a business idea. Or, you become better in your budgeting what you have. But, you are so caught up with why God didn’t answer your prayers, that you don’t see God was preparing you to be wealthy.

Once you get a better job, start a business, or a promotion, those designer bags, and clothes seem like too much to spend. When you look at a luxury car you count the cost, insurance, taxes, on how much it will cost to fix. That bigger home seems kind of dumb since it’s just you, and/or your husband, or take in account that your children will be leaving soon, and you wouldn’t need a house that size. You learn to make dinner, instead of reservation, because why eat out, when you could save money by cooking a good meal at home. Now you have a savings for a rainy day, because you learned that money doesn’t drop out of the sky.

Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

And, you thought God didn’t love you, or answer your prayers? God heard your prayer, and answered them. He’s trying to teach you to be wealthy.

Why Don’t Men Love Themselves Anymore?



by Belinda Kendall

While I was out tonight for dinner, I saw someone that I have known for a while on a date with someone, however, he is married.

I thought to myself, “Why don’t men love themselves anymore?” When I worked with the homeless at a hotel, I worked during the holidays. I took many meals to some very good looking older men that sat in their hotel room all alone. When I would ask, “Do you have any children?”, they would always tell me about their children, grandchildren, and all the things they had accomplished in life. Their eyes would light up about the stories about their wives and how their children would act When I would ask, “So why are you not spending the holiday with them this year?” Their answers were, “Well they like to go to their mother’s house, that’s where they go for the holidays.” Then they would talk about how their wife could cook an amazing meal, the stories went on and on.

This is a story I have heard over and over again from men. Some would say, “I never got married, because I wasn’t the marrying kind.” Or, “I had to take care of my mother, but she is dead now”, or “I was married before and marriage is not for me.” This is mainly because they are selfish.

Every holiday I think about these older single men I met in my life and I think about something my Daddy said on his dying bed. He told me and my sisters, “A married man lives the life of a dog, but a single man lives the life of a king, because he has no one to take care of. But, a single man dies like a dog, because he dies alone, and a married man dies like a king, because all of you are here to tell me how much you love me, so I am not dying alone.”

I have seen older single men going out to clubs and bars, living with their mother, sitting in hotel rooms all alone, and even dying in the hospitals. You would think all of these men that are married would look at how they are living and dying and want to change their ways. We have these men in our families, communities, and church, so the next time you see one of them, you may be looking at yourself years from now.

“I was crying a little for the boy I had wanted him to be and the boy he hadn’t turned out to be.”
― Gabrielle Zevin

Psychics vs. God



by Belinda Kendall

I had an interesting conversation with a Psychic today, who I met while I was at breakfast. I asked her why she became a Psychic. She told me, “That this was a gift she has had since a child, but a lot people try to be psychic, but they are playing in a very dangerous and dark place. Because God is real and the devil is just as real.”

She explained to me that the reason you see so much evil in this world like school shootings, murder, rape, and sexual sins is because the wrong people were trying to do something they should have never done—becoming a Psychic. She said, “When a person come to us and ask us question, we call up your dead relatives, to get the information. The problem is we really don’t have control of all the spirits that comes through that door we open. But a trained and gifted Psychic knows how to send that spirit back and close the door; someone that’s not gifted unknowingly allows them to stay. So these spirits start roaming the earth cause death, hell and destruction.”

She went on to say, “Notice that all hell didn’t really break lose on earth until you started seeing all of these commercials, and advertisement about Psychic’s Reading. Lot of people made money doing this so all of a sudden everybody was a Psychic. The cost they paid for practicing a craft they knew nothing about has been paid with death, murders, rapes, greed, and other evil things.”

She asked me, “Do you remember the story in the Bible where Saul went to a psychic, and she called up a lying spirit, which lead to him being killed?” I answered her and said “Yes!” Then she said, “If you want to know what’s wrong with the world today, take that story and multiply that time one million and you will have your answer.”

She advised me to always look into a person’s eye, because you can always tell if they are being controlled by something other than themselves. She encouraged me to stay strong in my faith in God, and believe in the power of the Blood of Jesus. She asked me to.” Be careful in dealing with people, because most people are not who they say they are. Those evil spirits are drawn to people that have weakest fro attention, wealth, fame, and sexual desires, and only have little faith in God.” She said, “Stay way from people that are teaching wealth. Some people are so possessed with these spirits that they have a reprobate mind, because they have no remorse for all the evil they are doing.”

Loan Denied



by Belinda Kendall


When you go to the bank for a loan, the banker will ask you why you need the loan, and pull your credit report. They want to understand the need for the loan, and look at your money management behavior. And, they will deny the loan based on the reason and/or your history. Please know that God does the same thing when you pray for a financial break through. God may ask you….

Are you still taking food out of your children’s mouth to prepare meals for that man that want even marry you? Loan Denied.

Why should I bless you with a new luxury car when you want even change the oil in the one you have. You are going to need more money when you don’t change the oil in that luxury car. Lord Denied.

Why should I give you the money to buy a new home, because last year you cost your landlord a lot of money because you didn’t change the air filters. If I gave you the money for the new home, there will be no landlord to pay for the repairs, it’s all on you. Loan Denied.

You want me to give you money so you can buy a phone to text, talk, and search the web all at the same time. I can barely get a word in now, and the people that you are talking to are only taking your business and putting it the street. Loan Denied.

You want me to give you more money to buy clothes to impress people at church, work, and to make your friends jealousy. Guess what they are not even paying attention to you; it’s all in your head. Loan Denied.

You need more money to take care of your family? If you spend less time buying drinks, gifts and hotel room for the women you are not married to you would have more money. Loan Denied.

You have to understand that money is an amplifier! Think about it, you spending money on foolish things at $15.00 an hour, you might lose your life at 30.00 an hour, and in some cases your family and your mind,

Some of you have stopped speaking to God because he didn’t answer your prayer, but you still have your paycheck directly deposited in the bank that denied you the loan.

The Peacemaker



by Belinda Kendall

You have to careful when sowing words of wisdom into people’s life without giving clear understanding. I heard about a person that somewhere in life, maybe when they first became a Christian was told, “God loves the peace maker.” These words alone have destroyed everything in their life, and have caused their life to be cursed.

These words have caused them to be used, mistreated, and abuse by family members, the church, and friends. To be a peace maker doesn’t mean you have to keep dealing with people that mistreat you, it means, forgive, and walk away instead of having an argument with them.
Their greatest fear in life has become worrying about how people feel about them, if they would question their walk with God if they stood up for themselves, and if they say it’s their fault everything went wrong.

These words have opened the door for them being a liar, gossiper, depression, and will quickly throw you under the bus so they look good. Why? Because they want to be known as the, “Peace Maker,” and really believe God is please with them, because, “He Loves the Peace Maker.”

In this person’s eyes if you cut out family members for mistreating you, or close friends—you are the devil, and down right evil.

Needless to say that their life has become a whirlwind of mess, all because they thought they were pleasing God. Makes you understand how a Preacher, Teacher, or Family Member can changed the whole course of your life, with a scripture.